#90 I Can Read You Like A Book
Title: I Can Read You Like A Book
Author: Gregory Hartley & Maryann Karinch (2008)
Publisher: Advantage Quest Publications
Page: 287
This book is related with psychological behavior that enables readers to scan and interpret anyone's body language, and also figure out what they are really saying or feeling. This book features a system called R.E.A.D.
Review: Check out someone quickly, from head to toe
Evaluate: Know what to look for; notice what's relevant
Analyze: Spot voluntary versus involuntary movements; factor in gender, context and culture
Decide: Draw conclusion
The author uses the bell curve model to depict where someone fits within a culture. The bell curve represents a range of values. In order to read someone, we need to understand what kind of culture a person possess. Culture affects every aspect of understanding body language.
Example: How many had skinned knee at least once? (Students)
Sub-typical: 0-1 time (Everyone raised their hand)
Typical: 2-5 times (Most keep a hand up)
Super-typical: More than 5 times (Few hands remain)
All humans share some communication traits, regardless of gender or language. The author exposes essential concepts so the detailed list of body movements gets readers thinking about how individual gestures might fit into meaningful, complete picture.
Illustrators: Gestures used to punctuate a statement
Regulators: Gestures used to control another person's speech
Adaptors: Gestures to release stress, adjust the body as a way to increase the comfort level.
Barriers: Postures and gestures we use when we are uncomfortable.
These concepts will help us speak a common language as we spotlight body movements and reactions from scalp to sole.
This book is suitable for people that would like to improve their people's skills. It will also help in understanding others very well.
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